Welcome everyone to a new episode of the Green Pill Secret, welcoming you from a moonstruck Reston, VA. This post is being released at precisely midnight as we’re only a month away from the Summer Solstice. And with the extra sun comes longer evenings and time for dates and time to meet new and interesting people.
But then you meet that special gal—or guy—and she’s the world to you. You’re flabbergasted by her beauty and features, and you hang on every word she says. She likes you, to be sure, but… she just can’t think of you in that way.
Folks, that’s unrequited love. When you’re attracted to someone who can’t reciprocate those feelings, you’re doing no-one any good to hold onto them. You’re not only hurting yourself, but you’re making her feel a little creeped out because you can’t accept she only wants to be friends. Or worse, you see her from across the room and you don’t even talk to her. Folks, that unrequited love.
Don’t be doing this to yourselves, folks. If he’s just not into you, if she’s got better things to do then spend time with you, cut them loose. Refocus your energy on someone else, someone more receptive to your charms and unique attributes.
The moment she spells out that you’re too old, it’s time to accept things and reevaluate. As I’ve said before, Bayesian induction is the cornerstone of rationality. You can’t go wrong with constantly updating your priors. Sure, if I was only 3 years older and never married, the woman might have been willing to date me, but that will never be and such a hypothetical is pointless because it can never be.
Finally, let’s be real, when it’s the woman having a thing for a guy, she’s not always going to be likely to tell him. Because it’s very rare for a guy to notice if a girl fancies him, he’s kind of stuck in a conundrum of not wanting to ignore potential unrequited love, but not sure if that’s what’s really going on; maybe she’s just really friendly and polite. So, if he broaches the subject, and probes her to see if she wants something more, admitting that he’s willing to try if she does, and then she spells out that no, she’s not interested in that, she just wants to be friends, then accept friendship. He will move on, because he was just trying to see if he was missing something, and she should move on because the inquiry was not unrequited love, it was just being opened to the possibility.
In general, she’ll know if he has a crush. The probe shouldn’t be the only thing to tip her off. And if he does have that unrequited love for her, it’s best to move on. Date, fail, date, fail, and date again. Love ain’t easy, but the better you roll with the punches, the better off you’ll be in the end.