It used to be you’d just gossip among friends and while some circles would try to be positive, others wanted to vent and venting would sometimes lead to realization that it’s time to get out and sista be helping. But most of the time, it was self-deprecating aggrandising of the other in your tight-knit circle that was only y’all and not for anyone else to see.
Then, SARS-CoV-2 came and changed everything and we all went online. No more could we see our girlfriends to discuss our private concerns. We went public and started the epidemic of Partner Shaming, especially on TikTok, and it has never been more rampant in this day and age. The tight-knit group has become the a window into our private lives through the 6-inch (20 cm) screen. We are becoming addicted to likes on social media and seeking digital clout to the point where what was once considered embarrassing is now considered the way to get the most views. And there’s nothing more embarrassing than insulting your supposed loved one by pointing out their flaws and using weaponized incompetence. Chasing likes is just not a healthy way of living.
Worst of all, what if your shamed partner actually finds out about your insulting videos? Videos where you have dozens if not hundreds of likes and comments telling you to leave the bastard. What happens then? Do you think your partner will wise up and be better, or will they feel hurt and even start considering the advice of your followers, and file for divorce. Will you end up having to make a mea culpa episode where you try to take it all back to save your marriage? Sista, don’t make that mistake because your followers won’t be switching side so easily and may still be wishing you to end that relationship. And woe be you if you listen to them.
Folks, just don’t partner shame unless you want to get out of a bad relationship. I know that for me, when I aired my dirty laundry it was not cool. It made people say I should end my relationship. But, in the end I did end it, but I did so not because I hated my ex, but because I love her like a dear friend, and I knew that being just friends was the best for us.